Discussing your Divorce with Your Children: Do’s and Don’ts

Parents going through divorce frequently have questions about how to discuss the situation with their children. It can be a difficult and emotional time for everyone involved, but there are some things you can do to make it easier on your kids.

Do: Do help children understand that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents love them and will continue to love them despite the divorce.

Don’t: Do not use the children as a messenger between parents. It’s important to communicate with the other parent directly and not force the children to go-between.

Do: Help your child know what to expect. Providing them with a plan, such as what the upcoming parent-time schedule will be, gives a child a sense of security about what is going to happen.

Don’t: Don’t share the details of the divorce negotiations and litigation process with your child. It’s ok to say to a child “that’s adult stuff” when they have questions. Shielding your children from the conflict, when possible, will allow them to feel like they can continue to love both parents without needing to pick a side.

Do: Take care of yourself. Tend to your own mental health and get professional help if you are struggling. If you take care of yourself, you will be able to parent your children.

Don’t: Do not talk poorly about the other parent to the children or in the presence of the children. This can be hard when you are dealing with strong and intense feelings, but children are made up of both parents and when kids hear one parent say demeaning things about their other parent, they can internalize those insults to themselves personally.

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